How to Talk to Your Boss About Mental Health

How to Talk to Your Boss About Mental Health
In recent years, mental health has finally started getting the attention it deserves in the workplace. But even with increased awareness, discussing your mental health with your boss can still feel intimidating. Maybe you're afraid of being seen as less capable, or you're just unsure how to start the conversation.
The truth is, talking to your boss about mental health doesn’t have to be uncomfortable or risky—especially if you approach the conversation with intention and clarity. Here’s how to make it easier on yourself and more effective overall.

1. Know Your Goal
Before you schedule a conversation, get clear about what you need. Are you looking for:

• A flexible schedule?
• Temporary workload adjustments?
• Time off to attend therapy or manage burnout?
• Just understanding and support?

Clarifying your ask helps you stay focused and prevents the conversation from becoming vague or emotional without direction. If you're not sure what to ask for, there is a great resource for accommodations at askjan.org. 
JAN - The Job Accommodation Network - provides many options, ideas or resources and you can search based on your disability, by limitation or by work-related function. 

2. Choose the Right Time and Setting
Don’t ambush your boss between meetings or during a hectic deadline. Schedule a private, one-on-one meeting when you’ll both have time and space to talk without distractions. If you're working remotely, request a video call instead of a quick Slack message.

3. Decide How Much to Share
You don’t have to go into personal details. It’s enough to say something like:
“I’ve been managing a mental health condition that’s recently become more challenging. I’m taking steps to manage it, and I’d like to discuss some adjustments that could help me stay productive.”
Stay honest, but professional. Framing the issue in terms of solutions shows you're committed to your responsibilities.

4. Know Your Rights
In many places, mental health conditions are protected under workplace disability laws. That means you may have the legal right to reasonable accommodations. If you're unsure, HR or an employee assistance program (EAP) can help clarify.
Still, it's often best to try having the conversation with your manager first, unless you're in a hostile or unsupportive environment.

5. Suggest a Plan, Not Just a Problem
Bosses appreciate proactive employees. If you can, come to the conversation with a few options. For example:

• “Could I start a little later in the mornings and stay later to help manage my energy?”
• “Would it be possible to work from home on days I have therapy?”

This keeps the discussion solution-focused and collaborative.

6. Follow Up
After the conversation, thank your boss for their time and support. A brief email summarizing any agreed-upon changes can help ensure clarity. Revisit the plan after a few weeks to check what’s working and what might need adjustment.

7. Don’t Wait Too Long
It’s tempting to “push through,” but unaddressed mental health struggles can build up and affect performance, relationships, and your well-being. Reaching out early, when you still feel in control, gives you the best chance at finding a sustainable balance.

Final Thoughts
Talking to your boss about mental health takes courage. But the more we normalize these conversations, the easier it becomes for everyone. Remember: your mental well-being isn’t a weakness—it’s a crucial part of your overall health and professional success.